Empowering Women…Inspiring Others…

Empowering Women, Inspiring Others.

Empowering women makes the world go round! It breeds better friends, lovers, passion, existence. Women empowerment leads to better teachers, mothers, providers, all around love. When we allow women to follow and carry out their dreams, the outcome is a benefit to us all. Empowered women are able to shine down on the world in ways that deviate from hate and drama in tactful ways. Empowered women make better wives and mothers.

Empowered women inspire others to do the same. They are able to see the struggle, humble up and help another going through it. I know that going through a lot of what I have gone through, it would be best to benefit from the inspiration from other empowered women. When women are empowered and other people, they are better equipped to raise empowered children who are not bullying due to their own insecurities they have risen above and are able to have compassion and love for others. It is time to get to a level of empowerment from within and then help others to do the same.

And, just so you know…women being empowered does nothing but benefit the men around us… JUST SAYING!

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I had a VISION…

I had a vision!

So I had a vision a week ago…it just came in my mind during meditation and it was gorgeous and it moved me.  It was of two paths that were never-ending. Life is a path that is never ending. More importantly it’s a journey not a destination. I think what we fail to see is the journey is the funnest part.

Never lose sight of your journey. The moments of love, passion, the sheer memories of it all. Know that at any time you can change the path and the scenery.

 

 

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Inhale 2018 and EXHALE 2017 and anything before…

I spent a lifetime stuffing emotions, venting them out with prayers of being saved, until I finally decided to learn acceptance, confront the necessary, ignore the haters, but always let them know my introverted keep to myself world can always transform at a moments notice to the lone wolf that refuses to back down to the insecure shit you wish to deliver.

2017 is the year I am giving up stuffing my emotions! It’s the last year of garbage pale warriors who try to infiltrate my life. I am chaining the locks metaphorically speaking and moving on. It’s my time, it’s your time, it’s all of our times. Inhale the glory, exhale the everything that no longer serves you stuff that has contributed to intoxicating your soul with reminders of what you thought you weren’t, what you thought you didn’t deserve and anything that even remotely feels like it dims your light.

I always refer to the dimming of the light and I must say that it’s quite simple, anything or anyone that you allow or feels that they can manipulate your golden heart with selfishism I’ll call it, good riddens. Anyone who looks at your life and wants some credit even an ounce, have a seat. Always room for a supporter, always room for someone to make you feel absolutely beautiful but never room for someone who wants you to save them.

For all my searching for my savior I realized it was always within me, in the mirror looking back out. I feel more joy, more life for the integrity and amazing self I have created, I have worked for. As I continue to stop stuffing it leaves room for more love, joy and health!

I will inhale my present with conviction and honor my past. Without all the days as a quiet observing sheep I could have never transitioned into a encouraging, ferocious, passionate wolf.

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Gratitude for my Elegant Team…the reason for the season!

Gratitude for my Soul Family

As we reach Thanksgiving and of course always, I choose to blog about my gratitude for my soul family.  I have many to be grateful for, God, the Universe, my children, my husband, and of course, my cat.  I have many friends to of course have gratitude for and angels along the way who have always taught me a lesson even if the experience was less than desired.

I would like to give special thanks for my Elegant Team.  As I continue to embark on further journeys and future endeavors for my social enterprise I realize who is there day to day making the dream work, bringing my vision to life.

I will start with my gatekeeper or Elegant Director, India. She has tirelessly put up with my continued obsessions, my yelling from my office to get something and always willing to do anything that supports the mission.  After hours, she will do whatever it takes to listen to an idea, personally or professionally by me, travel on a whim and be there for any and all that needs to be done.  Her ability to manage the Elegant program and work on other endeavors, makes the dream work.  She has learned me like no other and supports which ever way the mission goes on any given day.  India will give into the individuals served needs as I always want in the mission we started Elegant by.

Takisha, who may appear quiet, but is super outgoing and loving.    She will do whatever it takes to make the day go smooth.  She listens and is super supportive to the Elegant Team members and is always willing to go the extra mile when direction is given.  She is fun, loving and super caring to those we serve and continues to rise up with Elegant as we move forward into new avenues.

Chantel, who has been with us from the start, WOW!  She is a staple, someone that we can count on to ensure delivery of any supplies, care for the program afterhours, before hours and beyond.  Her commitment has enlarged the mission from the beginning following our current growth.  She goes above and beyond to make sure the individuals served are cared for even doing after hour calls and FaceTime with individuals making their home life as smooth as it is supposed to be at Elegant.

Monica, holds it down.  When she is not present her absence is missed.  She is someone the individuals can count on to maintain the rules and order while still giving them all the incentives out of her own pocket as with her own family members.  She goes above and beyond during hours and after hours to help individuals served feel special as she is to Elegant.  Monica has been with us for many years.  She is funny and super loving even though sometimes she tries not to show that side of her.

Derrick, of course is a relaxed, do anything type of guy.  He will do things without being asked and go above and beyond.  He brings a sense of calm and love to the program.  He will stay late and finish progress notes for all of his teammates while they leave to go off to other jobs or to go home.  He will step up into a leadership role as needed at anytime to ensure things are done.  In a moments notice, he can travel, work and will even come in work sick.  His effort and level of commitment are to be admired.

Darnell,  is funny, caring, loving and knows how to navigate any dilemma with ease and finesse.  His charm keeps the individuals served happy and content.  He is always accommodating, will go and pick up anything that needs to be picked up and has also been doing a lot of maintenance to chip in when we have a sudden defect in our wall from a slight punch from our individuals.  He has been with us for some time as well and I know he can attest to whatever he suggests, results to be delivered.

Penny, is a mother figure to me and the program, doing arts and crafts, providing that therapeutic element that is necessary in a program like ours.  Her ability to manage a crisis situation is excellent and done with ease.  She goes out of her way to make suggestions so that the lives of those we serve is one of quality and love.  She voices her concerns and makes things happen.  Her balance is one of beauty and elegance.

Edwin, is a Godly man who embeds the Elegant program with morals, values, and skills.  He works hard on off hours to make sure that the skills learned in the program are those of lasting success with real life practical examples so that those we serve are respected, loved and have the ability to flourish in the world.  Those individuals served who are getting job interviews and those employed have done so under the direction of his amazing values and skills that have been integrated into the Elegant Program.

LaTisha “Tot”,  Our newest Shining star to come to the Elegant Team who has fit in with ease and belongs in our team of love, joy, and excitement.  Tot can quickly diffuse situations and is always found engaging with the individuals served, cleaning, helping any way she can.  Tot actually asks what she can do to help and does it.  When she says something you can count on her to do it.  She is someone of her word and puts in the effort.  Her success should be no shock in the Elegant Program where she has found a fit.

Tracy, is the core, the foundation of Elegant, the reason for the season, the man who on the scene and behind the scene has the most affiliation to me, the man I envisioned for the job.  He has held up to the job by providing that brick layer that built us and will continue to shelter us with the brick layer he puts around us to protect us all from the evil that inevitably comes when you run a program as amazing as ours.  Tracy is my rock, without him, there would be no Elegant!

Everyone goes above and beyond…everyone takes money from their own pocket to better the lives of those we serve and beyond…everyone is living the mission!  I am beyond grateful to everyone who puts up with my level of “awesomeness” some may call crazy!  I am honored to be part of this Elegant Team!

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Effort, yes, EFFORT…

If there is one piece to success, relationships, love, abundance, it’s effort.  It takes effort to get anything worth having which can consist of the job you want, the business you passionately start, the countless hours you put in, the relationship of the man or woman of your dreams, the car or house you want, the family and values you possess, it takes effort, truly.

It has nothing to do with your intelligence level, skills, etc.  It has everything to do with your effort as to being successful.  Step outside of yourself, care more, make an effort for what you want.  Anyone can talk about it, anyone can pretend or put in a little work up front, but anything worth having takes effort.

As we get near to the holidays my ability to think about the year, has effort as my top priority.  If you want a life worth living full of love and happiness make the effort.

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Abuse and Neglect Oh My…

Abuse and Neglect

It is surely frowned upon topic in the industry of working with individuals with disabilities however it shouldn’t be because it’s time to address it. In training and policies and procedures all staff must sign off to understanding the rules around abuse and neglect and what that is. It appears clear cut or at least when training happens it seems that way.

The real work comes when the introduction of those you served comes into the equation. It’s the test of the training you just had, right? NO! Mistake number one. A training is never going to take the place of a clinician supporting the caregiver or direct care staff to truly understand the individual served and prevent abuse. I have been in this industry for probably upwards of 15 years now. I have seen upper management place responsibility on staff at times on direct care professionals saying they are “bad eggs” or “this industry is not a fit” or “they just don’t have patience.” The reality is they were never properly trained in almost all cases. I have seen stuffy clinicians who choose not to even work around the individuals served try to dictate behavior plans without ever really knowing any of the parties meaning staff and clients. I have watched staff and agencies take over programs without being prepared administratively never mind their incompetence to teach their staff. I have watched greedy top heavy agencies run to accept the revenue and not fully execute a comprehensive plan to train. The worst part is the lack of collaboration amongst providers for the betterment of the individuals and person centered planning that should occur.

When we have forgotten the plan is to move all individuals served along to reach their potential in a safe environment, no matter what any agency has for a mission statement.

When we are putting the individual first we put ourselves aside and work toward the greater good which is to train, have all team members pull up a chair to the table and do what is right, not popular.

It is time to take a look at the system, refine the details and work together as providers to make things better regardless of feelings toward other members of the team. It’s time to go where the rubber meet the road and get our hands dirty being out on the floor working with the individuals and making it happen, increasing goals met, decreasing behaviors and promoting consistency.

If you want abuse and neglect to cease, you have to model what’s right, not popular. Camera up your programs, use them for assistance in training not seeing whether or not your staff are wearing flip flops and get out from behind your screen.  Become the change you want to see! If we all get up together we will see a change and a new system will emerge! Let’s do this!

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Travel

It slows you down even if it’s a family trip with younger kids.  Travel takes you out of your comfort zone and allows you to embark on a journey of beauty and insight.  I find as I continue to travel even by car I find more beauty in the worl with landscapes around, the destinations you go to and the pure journey of it all.  I find it liberating.

As I continue on my journey of life I find so much joy in traveling.  I am truly grateful for all I have seem so fare on my long list in my Pinterest account for places I still have to see.  It creates a different element, a wonder in us, an untapped market of creativity emerges from it.

I encourage it!

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Journaling

Successful people tend to journal things, keep notes so that they can measure their success over time.  It’s what I read in blogs, books, and know from talking to people who are making it, who have drive, and commitment.  With that being said, there is journaling that you do when you keep a running tab in your mind of experiences that you have, memories that you share, feelings that are in your heart.  There is also the flip side, people to watch out for, stay away from, avoid, or confront are all in that running tab in your head.

With that being said, I think it is important to also document when it comes to work and happenings that take place.  I have chosen to quietly observe while we have done all that we can to showcase the wonderful things we are doing and outcast all the bad.  But, document, never let something happen without documenting it.  It all shows up with experience down the road, it all has a payment or check from Karma.  So Journal, don’t let life go by without the precious moments being captured, after all, in life those precious moments are what matter, not the sip of evil that comes from time to time, just stay armed for that, surrender and God will have your back!

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Prayers up high Las Vegas!

Prayers are up high today with the tragedy in Las Vegas, Nevada.  It is clear that each day is a treasure, a gift, one you MUST be grateful for.  When you get that special feeling when your birthday comes around, find that special feeling daily, and I mean every single day.  I live a life where I feel special everyday and if I don’t, I look within as to what I need to fix or create a boundary around.  I am a work in progress, a work of growth, a child of God as we all are.  I am no different than anyone, no better, no worse.  We are all one really, so if your script for your life isn’t going as you planned, you need to change the script within.  The script is in the mirror.  If you don’t like your job, work harder, go back to school, use time after work to think about what you may want to be the CEO of, same for your life.  If you don’t like who you are with, be the CEO and change it.  The harsh reality is always in front of you, always the clarity that is bleeding to come through until the lesson reaches you and you fix it or not, then all you are doing is slowly dying, not growing.  Grow, evolve, or well…evaporate.

Be grateful.  Find a profession you love, find a way to serve others.  Enjoy life, nature, give all the love you have once you find yourself.  When you give all the love you have, you will receive all the love you have been longing to receive.  Nothing will ever be perfect, but perfect is overrated.  I like mistakes, joy, fun, laughter.  I appreciate my family first, the beauty of life, my passion, purpose, inspiration and gifts to the world.

Having been in Las Vegas this weekend with a terrific team of unique individuals, through this unforeseen, horrific tragedy, I will pray for all of those who are no longer with us, those injured, and those there including all responders to this incident, as they were all innocent and full of dreams too.  To think such evil exists is truly unimaginable.  It puts a lot of things in perspective in my life and others should step back around and do the same.  I am grateful I am here.  I am grateful for the ladies who went with me.  I am grateful for so much and evil can only be pushed out through love.  I don’t wish to ever understand it.  I just want to love those around me and pray that love will conquer all.

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