Blog 27 Boundaries

We need to create boundaries in our lives. I was not taught this growing up, but I wish I had learned that lesson earlier. The people around us can be very needy. The more you give, the more they want. Sometimes they seem to provide nothing in return. Yet ideally our relationships should be reciprocal in some way – and it is up to each of us to make sure they are.
Lately I have been on a personal quest to find gratitude from those around me. By that I mean I have really started to accept people for who they are and part of that is finding out what they are capable of giving to me and others. Sometimes that just means I must just avoid them, which is not always the easiest thing to do. Or it might mean I just have to look harder for what they are able to offer.
At this point in my life, I work so hard and have such limited time, the time I do have needs to really count. I have a beautiful family that I share almost all of my spare time with, even when I am working. I also seek peace at work as best I can. If people simply are around because they feel entitled, I am learning to be firm about sharing myself. I’m not around for the all the things I was once around for. It is just a fact. Accepting others for who, and what, they are may also mean establishing boundaries for both of you. In the end, it usually leads to healthier, stronger and more lasting relationships.

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