It’s been years since I’ve followed the latest popular television shows and movies. What with all the demands on my life from family and business I haven’t always had time to become a fan. For example, I just finished watching “Breaking Bad”, which ended nearly three years ago! Now I am into “Sons of Anarchy” whose finale was in December, 2014. Better late than never! I really love “Sons”. There’s never a dull moment and I have to pay close attention, or I get left behind. And that makes me take a break from my everyday life from time to time.
I do actually learn things from these shows. One thing I’ve learned from “Sons” is that when you make things too personal it can hurt your team. Things may not always be as loving or in agreement as you might like them to be, but that’s life. So conflicts that arise have to be put in perspective. Do the pros of winning an argument outweigh the cons of the disruption that often occurs? Maybe not. When there is to much conflict, an organization may start to fall apart. Sometimes psychologists create “teams” just to make sure everyone is on the same page! So to achieve success you need to maintain stability and consistency even if everyone working with you is not a perfect fit. Thank you “Sons of Anarchy”!
This theme really does go hand in hand with the Memorial Day holiday this past weekend. (Although I must admit I never really thought of the connection until just now.) The freedom I am talking about is the personal freedom to sit at the beach, toes in the sand watching the waves without a care, completely in the moment. When you are living in the moment, you truly appreciate how beautiful the world can be.
(And it doesn’t hurt if the water is a perfect shade of blue.) The shimmering blue water aside, it is also about knowing your family is in a safe place where they can work toward their goals and have the freedom to do whatever, wherever and whenever they want.
Freedom is not just about being in a beautiful place. It is not dependent on your location. It is about being able to travel and experience the wonders of this world, large and small, as an integral part of your everyday life. Now THAT is so freeing to me I can taste it.
I feel like I am floating as I type this. I really believe if you work hard enough and follow society’s rules as best as you can, life can be whatever you want it to be. Each day I work to be the best for me and my family. I also work for my soul because within it I can breathe the pure air of freedom — and know what it is to truly be me.
When I was younger I didn’t have many friends. I used to wonder why. Although I still have relatively few friends I don’t wonder about it anymore. I am so excited about everyone I now share my life with, I feel truly blessed. It is my choice to be with them and I don’t make that choice lightly.
These days, I don’t waste a moment of my time on people I do not want to be with. Even if a work meeting is not going well, if it is past the point of no return and things are getting disrespectful, I will excuse myself. Life is too short for that. I have real work, a beyond-quality family, and a close circle of real friends.
Sometime envious people try to understand my life and how it works. I treasure the life I have been given, maybe more than ever before. So I tell them to work harder, focus on yourself and you may find the same appreciation and gratitude for life that I have found. And I tell them to really appreciate the friends and family you truly love.
When I first started to hear about positive vibes and the law of attraction I remember being skeptical. But then I started to practice positive energy myself and — slowly — I could see it begin to work. No matter how emotional I got, as soon as I refocused my energy in the right place, it became clear to me where and how I needed to focus. Sometimes I felt like I needed Super Powers when something, or someone, was in my mind and heart so hard I couldn’t refocus. But, with a little practice, I did.
Now, when I set my intention out there in the universe, it’s almost like I can see lazar lines leading me to what is possible. Now I watch as my visions turn to reality and I am able to live a life I never imagined would be mine. And once again I am beyond grateful!❤️
Lately I have found myself stuck in two ways. One is about my work and the other is purely personal. When I think about it, both have to do with negativity and jealousy. I realize now that negativity and jealousy appear when you don’t feel good about yourself and you begin to feel entitled to things others have. Why them and not me, you think! This is not a good place to be. Yet negativity and jealousy can teach us things about ourselves. The people we meet, even those that inspire negativity or jealousy, help us by teaching us lessons that help guide us on our journey.
Everyone deserves the good things in life including happiness and most of all – love. But it is hard to find the good things when you are worrying too much about what other people do, or don’t do. When you are distracted by negative thinking and jealousy you cannot live up to your full potential. You can’t be you. I love to be challenged since it expands my mind and helps me avoid making the same mistakes over and over again. Anything I have accomplished has come from my own hard work plus being receptive to the lessons I am taught every day. Success is there for anyone willing to work for it, but you must not be distracted by bad energy around you.
When people around you don’t follow through, make excuses, and otherwise inspire negativity and jealousy in you, run from that bad energy and turn to your own inner strength. Remember that we must all live our own dreams. Otherwise we are just part of someone else’s.
Recently the universe has brought some improvements into my life. One of them is exercise. I could never really motivate myself to exercise in a gym, a certain day at a certain time and stay committed to it. So I started doing exercises throughout the day, morning, mid-day and before bed. I have been keeping it up and feeling better and actually starting to see some results!
The other important new improvement is the revelation that anytime you start worrying about something, the universe keeps the worry coming. Once something negative comes up you will continue to encounter other things, or people who will conspire to keep the negative energy flowing. You must continue to think positively, know your goals and realize your purpose is much larger than anything, or anyone, trying to get in the way. Keep things in perspective and keep shining. Your gift is absolute in this world but the way you achieve it isn’t. After all, none of us were made perfect. We have to keep working at it!
The Universe was calling me to Miami, so I made a quick trip there and I’m glad I did. Miami . . . the first thing that comes to my mind is Pitbull the Miami rapper! I love his music. His song “Freedom” resonates with me these days, partly because it says he feels free to do what he wants. His song is about how the world is full of opportunity and excitement. I feel that way too. Everyone is free to do whatever they want. It just takes clear vision, hard work and courage.
Don’t let fear hold you back. The great destroyer of dreams is fear. Fear of trying something new. Fear of letting go of something old. Fear of the scary and unknown. I have a fear of flying. But when I think of all the beautiful and exciting places I want to see and experience I get the courage to overcome my fear. Now, I am always ready to fly. Life isn’t just about dreaming of doing things, or being stuck somewhere paralyzed by fear. Yes, fear tags along with me on each flight, but fear now sits at the back of the plane, while I fly up front.
I remember when it was tough for me to get through a day because I felt so tired. I always felt as if I needed a nap. When life is always fresh and beautiful and full of new challenges and adventures you do not feel tired. You do not feel drained of energy every day. When you fly above your fear, anxiety and doubt, you get to a better more exciting place. You move on to a new life full of experiences and adventures that just might change you forever. You might even become like Pitbull, singing his song of Freedom.
What I realized this week is that when I am brave enough to confront someone who may have hurt my feelings — or just call someone out for behavior that I know wasn’t acceptable — it not only feels good, it’s liberating.
It also gives me more time to get on with life and work and recognize real quality and goodness when I should. When you confront someone there’s no time to hold feelings inside you. You just move on with it. It’s so simple. But in the past it’s been hard for me to deal with certain things head on.
But avoiding things because they might hurt us, or make us feel bad, only makes matters worse. I know we can’t control or predict how someone else is going to react to things we do or say, but I also know taking ownership of an issue we didn’t buy into doesn’t help. It is better to be brave. Let people know how you feel and then you can both move on. I’m not saying everything needs to become a confrontation, but don’t feel like it can’t. Accountability is real and some of the most valuable lessons I have learned have come from people who confronted me and held me accountable for what I had done. If someone doesn’t respond well to what you say, that is okay too. Maybe they just weren’t ready for the lesson. But if you felt ready, that probably means it was the right time to teach it.
Emotions play a big a role in my life. They are really important to me. But I need to move beyond them. If I don’t, they become counter-productive and disruptive. And that denies me things that are even more important to me.
I am a vigilante for expressing gratitude. I believe gratitude provides a solid foundation for your life. After that, family is the most important. So my emotions run high around the need to be grateful for my family. Judging them too harshly always comes back to haunt you. I know, because I have, and it’s not pretty. We are all on our own journey of emotions, love and spirituality in this beautiful world, but there is always something to be grateful for and family is on the top of my list.
Appreciating my life — without deluding myself about it — has been freeing. I now feel strong and clear headed and I want to share my gratitude for that with everyone! It’s like posting something on Facebook. If you want good, post good, put out love and gratitude. Put out all those feel-good, be-good emotions. Then watch them come back to you from every direction.
What is quality of life? The more I continue to try and balance work and family the more I realize how important quality time with friends and family is to me. The innocent smile on my daughter’s face, her contagious laugh and the company of friends make me feel so content. It means so much.
So I continue to work towards a goal I have in mind. My goal is to continue to live a life of quality, balancing work and family, for as long as I can.
I want to be able to teach strong values to my children. I also want them to experience the ups and downs of life and learn how to deal with them. I want to inspire and support all those close to me. And I want to be location independent, which is more and more possible today, yet I want to keep my amazing team around me to provide help and support. Life is about yourself of course, but it is also about who you to choose to share it with. I plan to continue to share my life wisely to find the quality in life we all deserve.