Blog 29 Emotions

Emotions play a big a role in my life. They are really important to me. But I need to move beyond them. If I don’t, they become counter-productive and disruptive. And that denies me things that are even more important to me.
I am a vigilante for expressing gratitude. I believe gratitude provides a solid foundation for your life. After that, family is the most important. So my emotions run high around the need to be grateful for my family. Judging them too harshly always comes back to haunt you. I know, because I have, and it’s not pretty. We are all on our own journey of emotions, love and spirituality in this beautiful world, but there is always something to be grateful for and family is on the top of my list.
Appreciating my life — without deluding myself about it — has been freeing. I now feel strong and clear headed and I want to share my gratitude for that with everyone! It’s like posting something on Facebook. If you want good, post good, put out love and gratitude. Put out all those feel-good, be-good emotions. Then watch them come back to you from every direction.

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Blog 28 Quality

What is quality of life? The more I continue to try and balance work and family the more I realize how important quality time with friends and family is to me. The innocent smile on my daughter’s face, her contagious laugh and the company of friends make me feel so content. It means so much.
So I continue to work towards a goal I have in mind. My goal is to continue to live a life of quality, balancing work and family, for as long as I can.
I want to be able to teach strong values to my children. I also want them to experience the ups and downs of life and learn how to deal with them. I want to inspire and support all those close to me. And I want to be location independent, which is more and more possible today, yet I want to keep my amazing team around me to provide help and support. Life is about yourself of course, but it is also about who you to choose to share it with. I plan to continue to share my life wisely to find the quality in life we all deserve.

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Blog 27 Boundaries

We need to create boundaries in our lives. I was not taught this growing up, but I wish I had learned that lesson earlier. The people around us can be very needy. The more you give, the more they want. Sometimes they seem to provide nothing in return. Yet ideally our relationships should be reciprocal in some way – and it is up to each of us to make sure they are.
Lately I have been on a personal quest to find gratitude from those around me. By that I mean I have really started to accept people for who they are and part of that is finding out what they are capable of giving to me and others. Sometimes that just means I must just avoid them, which is not always the easiest thing to do. Or it might mean I just have to look harder for what they are able to offer.
At this point in my life, I work so hard and have such limited time, the time I do have needs to really count. I have a beautiful family that I share almost all of my spare time with, even when I am working. I also seek peace at work as best I can. If people simply are around because they feel entitled, I am learning to be firm about sharing myself. I’m not around for the all the things I was once around for. It is just a fact. Accepting others for who, and what, they are may also mean establishing boundaries for both of you. In the end, it usually leads to healthier, stronger and more lasting relationships.

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Blog 26 Repurposing Yourself

Once you discover your true purpose in life, and begin to serve those who need you, it is an amazing feeling. But I have learned that the path toward achieving your purpose can be altered. For example, you must remember to take yourself into consideration and provide for your own needs. With that in mind, I have taken some time during a few stressful months to think about my needs and how I want to accommodate them while achieving my purpose.
Although we cannot always forecast the future, we can still move forward towards the place where our future will take shape. With that in mind, I plan to continue my journey working with those who face challenges and providing them with the opportunity to grow. With that decided, I feel that some changes are still in store for me that will move my life ahead in a better way. Sometimes our initial purpose serving others needs some redefinition. That may include adding ourselves to the list of those we need to serve. When we remember to take care of ourselves, we make it easier to serve others who may need our help.

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Blog 25 Explanations

“Instead of being filled with all the passion and purpose that enable us to offer our best to the world, we empty ourselves in an effort to silence our critics.”
(Oprah Winfrey)
Friends, family and acquaintances all judge us. But friends and family are meant to provide support. If they do not play a supportive role, no matter what choices we make, then they are just critics. No one can live our lives for us and no one makes exactly the same journey here on Earth. So mere critics, no matter how close they may be to us, need not silence us.
I just re-watched a remarkable psychological counseling session that was filmed many years ago. It is known as “The Gloria Film”. It is a counseling session between Carl Rogers, a renowned therapist and advocate of a counseling approach called unconditional positive regard, and a 30-year-old woman named Gloria who was suffering from a variety of psychological problems preventing her from moving on with her life. After the session Gloria’s self-regard increased and she said she felt heard and empowered. She said the session with Dr.Rogers reinforced her ability to move forward and changed her life.
I believe our friends and family should play that kind of reinforcing role in our lives. They should be there to listen, but also to provide support. Ultimately we must all learn our own lessons, no matter how painful they are, or how triumphant they might make us feel. So don’t just be a critic and if you receive criticism, separate yourself from those who don’t support you.

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Blog 24 Success after Failures

I often see stories online about achieving success following many failures and disappointments. Or about people who never gave up and eventually succeeded because they kept on trying. So this week I have tried to recommit to something I have been working on for a long time. I am now determined to finish my book. Lately I have had a few personal setbacks that have prevented me from focusing on it, but now I am ready to move on.
I now realize that I was stuck on how to tell my story. So I had to convince myself that it was a story even if it wasn’t finished. All of us have a story that deserves to be told and it may be a story that hasn’t ended yet. I have shifted my focus to the story of my journey so far. I now feel I am really on the right track towards writing a book that is a true and honest expression of me. I also feel it will be a story that will resonate with others like me.
You see we are all a work in progress. As long as we keep living our lives the best way we can, our story will unfold as it should. And success after failure is so sweet and burns so bright in the universe.

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Blog 23 Books & Something to Share

Along with my gift for inspiration, I also have a talent for connection. Connection is anything you share with someone else — whether it’s intimate or not. Those you are meant to connect with are already out there waiting for you in the universe. When you let your inner light shine and your energy flow, you will start to make connections wherever you go. Embrace this because nothing is a coincidence. I realize now that people always come into your life for a reason. It might be to teach you something, or it might not. But I am always grateful for connections, no matter how good, or bad, or indifferent they may seem. In truth, they are all rare and special.
These days my love for people is all-embracing. I don’t believe we are only made to love one person (although I truly believe we only have one true soul connection). Maybe that connection is with your significant other – which is wonderful – but maybe not.
Over the past few of months, for the past year even, I have been learning so much about myself and grown more as a person than I can ever remember. I feel that is because of connections. I have learned that connections are something you can have with many people. Those meant to continue over time will always find a way to become a part of your life — no matter how long it takes. Other connections will be gone, but not forgotten, yet will still be important. Just don’t worry about how permanent they will be. That will work out naturally. Just remember to be open to all the connections that come along. If you do, it will help you find that wonderful life you were meant to enjoy.

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Blog 22 Connection

Along with my gift for inspiration, I also have a talent for connection. Connection is anything you share with someone else — whether it’s intimate or not. Those you are meant to connect with are already out there waiting for you in the universe. When you let your inner light shine and your energy flow, you will start to make connections wherever you go. Embrace this because nothing is a coincidence. I realize now that people always come into your life for a reason. It might be to teach you something, or it might not. But I am always grateful for connections, no matter how good, or bad, or indifferent they may seem. In truth, they are all rare and special.
These days my love for people is all-embracing. I don’t believe we are only made to love one person (although I truly believe we only have one true soul connection). Maybe that connection is with your significant other – which is wonderful – but maybe not.
Over the past few of months, for the past year even, I have been learning so much about myself and grown more as a person than I can ever remember. I feel that is because of connections. I have learned that connections are something you can have with many people. Those meant to continue over time will always find a way to become a part of your life — no matter how long it takes. Other connections will be gone, but not forgotten, yet will still be important. Just don’t worry about how permanent they will be. That will work out naturally. Just remember to be open to all the connections that come along. If you do, it will help you find that wonderful life you were meant to enjoy.

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Blog 21 Forgiveness

As I continued my journey of introspection, enlightenment and self-discovery, I met a wonderful person with a heart of gold who shared some knowledge with me about forgiveness. While I had read and studied a lot about it wasn’t helping me to find peace. That was because I wasn’t moving on, they said, putting aside all the people I must put aside, even though I might still care about them.
As I thought more deeply about what they were saying I realized how free I have been when I put aside toxic feelings of anger and resentment and forgave others. I have already learned while on my journey that it is not my place to judge. So as I continue to work on putting the forces that control my existence into balance, I will continue to forgive those I feel have trespassed against me. In truth, maybe they were not aware of what they were doing? Even if they were, why would I want to continuing holding on to those nagging feelings festering inside me? Maybe they have already embarked on a journey of growth and enlightenment and will someday emerge as better people themselves?
I want to love, balance and continue to live my purpose. I cannot do that dragging the chains of the unforgiven behind me.

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Blog 20 Listening & Acceptance

It’s interesting how what you want in life changes over time. When I was a little girl I wanted a big wedding, a big family and a big career. But when I found my purpose in life, which was to work with those who have a mental illness, my hopes and dreams began to change. Suddenly what I wanted in life started to fall in line with my real purpose. So I had to stop, take a look around and continue to listen and observe carefully — which is a big part of what I do anyway. Without listening closely to others you can never know what they want, only what you think they want. When we start listening to what others are saying we are able to love and understand and help them in ways we never knew before.
At first it was hard for me to listen. Then I realized it was because I did not want to hear anything bad, either about others or myself. But mostly I realized I was afraid what I heard might hurt me. Now, I understand hurting is a natural part of our journey through life. Even the greatest hurts we experience teach us things we desperately need to know. I have also found that by listening closely we become more accepting of those around us and those who are special in our lives. It is also important to remember that, when listening, it is not our job to judge anyone, or anything. That job is meant for a much higher power.

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